Letting Go ....2020-2022

In the last two years, my life has changed dramatically. In my wildest dreams, I would never have thought that I would live through a pandemic. It still seems surreal and most definitely will be one of those events that earmarks life as 2020, the year of Covid. And by now everyone is sick to hearing about it, talking about and most definitely dealing with it. It has been a political football, a major cause of mental health, and most of all a source of division or connection with families and friends.

So I thought when 2021 rolled around, we get vaccines, we move on and deal with it. We were doing just that, then in August of 2021, we found out my wife had breast cancer. So another deep breath, a lot of fear and tears, we walked into an area that will profoundly change our lives for ever. We are receiving the best care, and my wife is actually progressing well. It has been a hard journey and we are not through. With a little luck, we will be able to ring the bell this year and to start this new part of our lives. So to make matters more interesting...try having Cancer as Covid rages. This was a new one for us. In times of trouble we are usually surrounded by family and friends..... but we could not because we cannot risk my wife getting sick during treatments.

So why I am writing this, most of you by now know our story and our family and true friends constantly reach out to check on us, offer their help, and are always there when we need them. We have found during this time what true friendship really is. So the reason I am writing this is that I found this meme (above) and it froze me in my tracks because it is so true. After going through many stages of grief, we are learning to find joy in what really matters. There are million sayings about the little things I would always share with friends, yet I never really appreciated like I do now.

So we are letting go, sometimes peacefully, sometimes not, of the picture of what life was going to be like for us and we are learning what and who is important in our lives. So we are finding joy, one story at a time, one day at a time, and one friend at a time.